This is my last post in this series but it is not about the end of my search for love. I mentioned in the first post of this series, that I believe “Love is wanting the best for someone else. Even to the point of self sacrifice.”
In the second post of this series, I determined the type of love that I want to focus on and develop (agape: the love that produces action regardless of the individual or type of relationship).
The last step for me is to make sure my actions are based on love. But how do I know if the actions I take are based on love, a product of my own self interest, or the relationship I have with the person on who’s behalf I am taking the action? It so happens that there are guidelines that I can use to help me identify whether or not my motive is love. I found it in the Basic English Bible (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
Love is never tired of waiting: love is kind; love has no envy; love has no high opinion of itself; love has no pride;
Love’s ways are ever fair, it takes no thought for itself; it is not quickly made angry, it takes no account of evil;
It takes no pleasure in wrongdoing, but has joy in what is true;
Love has the power of undergoing all things, having faith in all things, hoping all things.
So if I act because I am impatient with someone else, or because I think I am better than someone else, or as payback for some evil that was done to me, then I know I am not acting in love.
This is also what I try to keep in mind when I write a song. What is my motive for writing this? Who is it for and what do I hope to accomplish? If the answer is outside of the guidelines of love, then (for me) the song has failed.
That is a lot to live up to and I am nowhere near to being that person yet. In fact, some may say it is impossible to get there. But that is why I said this post is not about the end of my search. Being a person who loves first is a life long pursuit. It can’t be achieved quickly and it is not easy to obtain. But is it absolutely worth the effort.
So as I move on to new adventures and new music, I will check in from time to time to talk about what I have learned. In the meantime, know this: you are loved!